Join us in this week’s episode as we speak on a very heavy topic, in which we discuss the code of silence. What needs to change and how we can become allies to those whom have been victims of any form sexual assault.
The code of silence is something that has gone on for way too long and needs to be broken. Many times, victims have stayed silent about the assault they have gone through because of fear tactics. What is sad, is that sometimes these tactics are applied by family members rather than the offender themselves. Mothers, grandmothers, brothers, sisters, and uncles, at times tell the victim not to speak out and protect the offender with excuses such as “we don't want to start any family drama”, “if this person finds out they will kill them and then he’ll go to jail.” It’s time to stop this behavior that puts pressure on an individual that is already going through a lot of emotions as it is. It's time to encourage victims to speak out, it’s time to tell them they did nothing wrong by speaking out, it’s time to protect victims and make them feel safe, it’s time to side with the victims and not the offenders.
If you or anyone you may know have been victims of sexual assault, I want you to know you are not alone. Although there are wonds that will never fully heal, listed below ther are some recourses that can be helpful.
National Center for Victims of Crime. https://victimsofcrime.org/
RAINN (Rape Abuse and Incest National Network) https://www.rainn.org/
American SPCC (American Society for the Positive Care of Children). https://americanspcc.org/sexual-child-abuse/
The Children’s Assessment Center (Houston Texas). https://cachouston.org/prevention/child-sexual-abuse-facts/
Unbound – My Story of Liberation and the Birth of The Me Too Movement by Tarana Burke
Know My Name: A Memoir by Chanel Miller
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My siblings and I have a very dysfunctional relationship which stems from our childhood family therapy is ideal However, all parties are not ready for this format.
I have a friend that is open in talking about their childhood trauma with me. They rage from physical, emotional, to sexual abuse he often states states that he wonders why he was the only sibling to have all this happen to, from their father and fathers friend. He sought out therapy in the past but encountered non ethical behavior from the therapist so he is now reluctant to try again. He is seeking a relationship and is a really good guy but I wonder if he is emotionally available. How can I support him? - https://www.facebook.com/Talk2Spirit/videos/150771837146105 (6:48)
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